MY husband has been sexting a woman he works with and, while I know they haven’t slept together, I still feel he has been unfaithful.
After stumbling across these graphic messages, I’m a complete mess.
I am 57, he is 59 and we have been married for 30 years.
He works for an events company. His female colleague claimed her work phone was broken so she gave my husband her personal number.
They both work away from home a lot and I’m just thankful they weren’t ever on the same job as who knows what would have happened.
I was looking for a family friend’s number on my husband’s personal phone when I was surprised to see her contact. Curious, I went into his messages.
I could see she had initiated everything, bombarding him with flirty texts. But rather than tell her he wasn’t interested, he’d messaged back.
Within days she was sending him topless images and totally naked ones.
And he reciprocated with pornographic images and videos.
The whole exchange went on for over two weeks.
My husband walked in while I was looking through the messages and knew straight away I’d found out.
He is doing everything in his power to make things right. He says he doesn’t know why he did it.
He’s always been into porn, which I’ve struggled with, and it has always caused arguments. I do wonder if sexting is an extension of porn with interaction.
He says he isn’t interested in his colleague, which I do believe.
I know nothing else happened between them, but I cannot come to terms with what he did.
It is on my mind every day. I don’t trust him.
MARRIAGE-CHRONICLES.COM SAYS: A betrayal is anything one member of a couple feels is beyond the realms of a trusted relationship.
And I’m sure for most couples, sexting would qualify.
Rebuilding the trust after such a betrayal is hard. You can’t heal your hurt alone.
Has he actually said sorry? Because you need to hear that, and for him to say how much he loves you.
Tell him you need lots of loving hugs, to do some honest talking and, just as important, listening.
It sounds like he genuinely doesn’t understand his own feelings or isn’t able to articulate them.
Couples counselling might help. If you could both learn why his betrayal happened you could save your marriage and even strengthen it.