ANOTHER woman has made me feel alive again. I love my husband but I’m not sure I want to stay married to him.
We got together when I was in my teens. I’m 36 and my husband’s 41. We’ve been married for 12 years.
I have never cheated and — to my knowledge — he hasn’t either. We’ve always put our three children first.
When we were invited to a friend’s barbeque recently I went alone, as my husband wasn’t feeling well.
I met this other woman there. We hit it off straight away.
She told me she was gay and I was intrigued, as I don’t have any gay friends. She’s 34 and single.
Later we were in the kitchen washing up. We were giggling away when she k!ssed me on the lips.
I was surprised with how I responded — it was very passionate. At the end of the night we swapped numbers.
I couldn’t get her out of my head and a few days later I texted her. She was thrilled to hear from me.
Five months on, we have been sneaking around to be together, though I know it is wrong. S3x with her is amazing and like nothing I’ve ever experienced.
Being with someone who knows how the female body works is on another level. I always fantasised about having lesbian s3x.
I can’t shake off this feeling but I have children who will be hugely affected.
I do love my husband but we got together when I was very young and I didn’t really get to explore all avenues of love.
Will my feelings subside? Or do I need to explore more to figure out what my heart, body and soul need?
MARRIAGE-CHRONICLES.COM SAYS: Your feelings matter – and if being with another woman is right for you, you will not be able to stay happily married to your husband.
Exciting s3x with a new lover is heady stuff and it doesn’t necessarily mean you would be happy together.
Plus, your children would start this new life confused and miserable.
Stay away from your lover and distract yourself from thinking about her by making positive efforts to liven up your marriage, including sexually.
You could help fan fresh flames between you and your husband by communicating your feelings with him.
Being your first time, there’s bound to be that kind of excitement and quest for more but this may not be the same with your new lover because she is used to having such affairs over the years. So, you need to look into the future before destroying your family.
But if this only proves to you that you want a female partner, be honest with your husband.
Don’t also forget that many religious and societal beliefs do not appreciate same s3x affairs. The Bible and Christianity seriously frowns at it and if you are a christian then it won’t be easy for you too later on.