WHY won’t my family accept my much older boyfriend?
I’m 25 and have fallen in love with a man of 44.
I know it’s a large age gap, but this is honestly the best relationship I’ve ever been in, after a series of toxic ones.
We have lots in common and he makes me so happy.
I didn’t tell my family at first because I knew they’d disapprove – and they reacted just as I’d expected, saying I was mad and stupid.
But now we’ve been together for a year and they still won’t acknowledge him.
Things got so toxic I had to move out of the family home.
Mum hates seeing me upset, but she’s weak, and does what Dad says.
I don’t think he wants me to grow up and have my own life. I feel so lonely and rejected.
MARRIAGE-CHRONICLES.COM SAYS: You’re an adult and mature enough to make your own decisions. Disliking someone purely because of their age is prejudice.
If you know in your heart your boyfriend is the one, be calm and assertive with your family.
Tell them you don’t want to fall out but you do want to be free to follow your heart.
Hopefully they will come round in time.
If they don’t, sadly they will be the ones to miss out.
Also very importantly, does he have a good job? Your parents must be sure of your well-being in that marriage.
If he has money, nobody will reject him just for being 44. So whilst you’re in love, take some time to also consider if both of you can handle your economic needs in the nearest future.