MY husband asked for a divorce on our tenth wedding anniversary, via text – but the real kicker is he wants to carry on sleeping together.
We were childhood sweethearts and started dating when we were 15. We’re now 33.
In January, he was away with work. He’d been slow to answer my calls and texts, but I assumed that was because he was busy.
The night before he was due home, he sent me this message: “I’m sorry, but I can’t do this any more. I love you, but I’m not in love with you.”
After ten years, the best he could do was a text.
I was stunned. Two weeks before, he’d suggested we try for a baby when he got back from his trip.
I replied with a picture of his stuff, all packed up and dumped in the garage.
He went to stay at a friend’s while he sorted out somewhere more permanent to live, and we went weeks without exchanging a word. I was heartbroken and so confused. What had caused his sudden change of heart?
He got back in touch a month ago, asking to talk, so I met him for a socially distanced walk.
I thought he might have apologised and offered me an explanation. Instead, he said he missed me and asked if we could be friends with benefits.
Our s3x life had always been great — we always kept it interesting with new positions and toys.
I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry. I agreed, stupidly thinking that once we started spending time together again he’d change his mind about our divorce.
Is it possible he doesn’t want to let go either? Or am I just being used?
MARRIAGE-CHRONICLES.COM SAYS: It’s no good second-guessing what your husband is thinking. You need to ask him. Whether he is confused or simply using you, it would be better to take intimacy off the table as this will only cloud your thinking.
You need to get to the bottom of why your husband asked for a divorce and what was going wrong for him.
Talking to a couples’ counsellor would help you work through your issues and decide if you are better off separating or giving your relationship your best shot.
As good as the s3x may be, this halfway house will only lead to hurt and bitterness unless you can truly sort through what is really going on.