WHILE many women feel pressure to fake it in the bedroom, Amy Mathews has too many orgasms – and climaxes at the most awkward moments.
Amy, 23, has had orgasms on public transport, in college and even during lunch with her parents. Now, she says, she is addicted to them.
Her record for an individual sexual encounter is an incredible 18 orgasms. But the single dance teacher, from Oxford, says reaching her peak so often has its downsides.
Amy says: “I orgasm very easily and multiple times. If I’m on my own on a train and see someone I fancy, I’ll start to orgasm then and there. If I’m in bed with someone, I can pass out from having so many that are just too intense.
“On other occasions my abs hurt from the constant contractions in my tummy and pelvic area.
FIRST SEXUAL ENCOUNTER ‘A BIT OF A NON-EVENT’
“Sometimes I feel bad for the other person when I’m having so many and he gets just the one.”
Amy also has Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, a condition that causes flexible joints and loose tendons.
She was 15 when she had her first boyfriend. They were together for three years and it was with him she had her first sexual encounter, which she describes as “a bit of a non-event”.
But her s3x life evolved when she started a seven-month relationship at the age of 18. She says: “With this guy I learned to properly orgasm. They occurred via vaginal penetration and stimulating my clitoral area.
“When we had s3x, I was having a minimum of five.”
After they split, Amy was left able to orgasm any time in any place — even without s3x or physical stimulation.
She found orgasms helped relieve the chronic pain caused by Ehlers-Danlos.
Amy says: “I took medication but it made me tired.
“But if I had s3x or orgasmed with a s3x toy or by myself, I’d perk up again.
“I don’t take meds (for the pain) now. I prefer to orgasm instead.” She also found orgasms helped combat anxiety and this was how she became addicted to the sexual buzz, around age 18.
I feel bad for the other person…I’m having so many, he’s having one
Amy says: “I’d been diagnosed with polycystic ovary syndrome and one of my dance college teachers told me I was too fat.
“There was a lot of drama going on in my life and I started to suffer anxiety.
“Each time I had a panic attack, I found having an orgasm could help calm me down. The feeling of release was addictive and that’s when I started orgasming more regularly.
“One time, I had stormed out of a classroom, I sat down in the corridor and had one.
“While I don’t think I made any noise or blushed, God knows what other students must have thought seeing me sitting there. But it definitely made me less stressed.”
There is some science behind Amy’s claim. During orgasm, the body releases oxytocin into the bloodstream, which can reduce stress and inflammation.
Amy was referred for s3x addiction therapy by a college counsellor. She says: “The person I saw said as long as I feel good after the act, whether on my own or with someone else, then it’s OK.
“If I had a panic attack, the orgasm relief was better if I’d had physical s3x — but I could feel emotionally worse afterwards. At one stage I was having lots of sexual partners.
“I wouldn’t say the number of guys I have slept with was into three figures but it isn’t far off.”
Amy regularly climaxes nine times during s3x but her record is 18 times. She says: “With my third boyfriend, when I was 21, I had the best s3x.
“The most memorable time was when I had a full-body climax. I couldn’t breathe. It lasted for ages.
“It was like being on a rollercoaster when the ride keeps going up. You want it to be over because you can’t take it any more.
“The most I ever had with him in one go was 18 . . . I lost count after that.”
Amy can control her desire to orgasm when she is at work but it is the first thing she does when she gets home. It sometimes happens at unwelcome times — such as during lunch with her parents.
She says: “It can be awkward when I have one around my family. My Mum knows and is very supportive, taking the view that I’m lucky, whereas Dad has no idea.”
Today Amy relishes her single status and is happy to hook up with guys for s3x.
However, she worries men feel under pressure to perform.
She says: “I’ve only had three serious boyfriends and the one with the mind-blowing s3x finished two years ago.
Orgasms near Dad can be a bit awkward
“Since then I haven’t wanted a boyfriend. I’ve got a high s3x drive and I prefer to see guys casually.
“I only sleep with them on two or three occasions.
“I don’t want a boyfriend. I just need to orgasm regularly.
“There are times I feel bad if I don’t orgasm.
“When guys know about my ability to orgasm easily and it doesn’t happen or I don’t go into double figures, they worry there is something wrong with their performance.”
The longest Amy has gone without orgasming is a couple of days but she says she can easily get into the zone to make herself climax.
“Nowadays, when I have s3x, I’ll climax a minimum of nine times. I have missed s3x during lockdown.
“I have broken it a couple of times to see a friend because I’ve never gone longer than six weeks without s3x.
“I don’t miss the intimacy but I do miss the s3x.”