I HAVE no complaints with our hot s£x life – but my fiancé is being moody and difficult to live with.
Now I’m having second thoughts about our wedding next year.
I am 42, he’s 44 and we met a year and a half ago. It felt wonderful to find love again after being single for many years.
We just clicked from the day we met and it has been a whirlwind romance.
He proposed to me on my birthday three months ago and we set the date for the wedding.
I have two boys aged 12 and eight. We live in my house and my fiancé stays at weekends. He spent Christmas and New Year with us and, to be honest, it was disappointing.
He likes to get his own way and everything has to be immaculate. I am much more laid back.
I like a clean house, but don’t worry about a bit of untidiness.
On several occasions we had words and he turned really surly, refusing to speak to us for long periods.
It seemed so childish. My sons were not happy when he told them off and my oldest now says he doesn’t like my boyfriend.
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My fiancé wants me to give up my house and move to his larger home.
I don’t want to make a mistake by moving in with someone too difficult to live with and I am wondering whether to let my house out, rather than sell it, so I have somewhere to escape in case things don’t work out.
Or do I call off the wedding? I love my fiancé to bits, but I don’t know if we can live happily together.
MARRIAGE-CHRONICLES.COM: It is not just the two of you in this relationship. Your boys come as part of the package and their needs are important too.
Spending weekends together and then going back to living separately is not the same as becoming a family unit 24/7.
Listen to your gut instinct, otherwise you could end up in an unhappy marriage and with troubled children. Tell your fiancé exactly how you are feeling and hear what he has to say.
You both should discuss what improvements you need in your relationship.
He will know Christmas was a tense time for you all.
You can’t commit to a marriage half-heartedly. If you are uncertain about any aspect of marrying this man, postpone the wedding and give yourselves more time.
If you are going to create a happy family together then you both need to make compromises. And that should start now, not later.