I RISKED my marriage to have s£x with my boss so he’d promote me. Now I’ve got the job, I feel so guilty.
I’m a 33-year-old woman. I work as a supervisor in a food factory and I’ve been with the company for three years.
My husband set up his own business last year running a card shop, but because it was so new he didn’t qualify for any grants or payments from the Government during the pandemic and things hit us really hard financially.
I went back to work after three months of being furloughed and my manager, who had been with the company for more than 30 years, retired.
Her job was up for grabs. It was better paid than mine and had the advantage of regular daytime hours. I knew it would help to have more money coming in and no more late shifts meaning more time to spend with my two little girls.
Our managing director had always had a soft spot for me and I decided to play this to my advantage and seduce him into giving me the promotion.
He’s 59 and married with older kids. I went into his office one evening after my shift was over and everyone had gone home.
I asked him if we could talk, and I put on a few tears, telling him I was worried about money and, just as I planned, he came towards me and hugged me.
I looked up and kissed him and he responded passionately. Within a few minutes of us kissing, I was on my back over his desk and we were having s3x. When I got dressed again, I mentioned the manager’s job and he said I only had to ask and it was mine.
I was thrilled — but a couple of other women in the staff room today were planning to apply for it. They’re older and they deserve the job so much more than I do. I’ve cheated on my husband too. Maybe I should tell him?
MARRIAGE-CHRONICLES.COM: Probably best not. It might relieve you of the guilt but it would dump a whole load of misery in his lap and achieve nothing positive.
What matters more is to accept you made a big mistake and vow to yourself never to do anything like that again.
As for that promotion, summon up the courage to talk to your managing director again.
Tell him that, being honest, you now wonder whether there may be more experienced colleagues more suited to the job than you. Hopefully he will reassure you that you’re undermining yourself and you are the right person to run the floor.
Add that you’ve realised that you overstepped a boundary by betraying your husband and you’re going to keep your relationship purely professional from now on. This will help you not to be indebted to your boss after getting the promotion.