I CAUGHT my husband having s£x with my mum. They’ve been having a secret relationship. I am broken.
I am 23 and my husband is 28. We have three children and we’ve been married for seven years.
I got pregnant when I was just 16 but we loved one another and my husband said he was happy to settle down.
I think he meant it but found it hard. He’s always gone out a lot drinking with his mates.
His lifestyle didn’t change really but mine was totally different. I was looking after one baby when I was 17, two before I was 20. Our youngest is 18 months.
My husband has as high a s£x drive as ever but mine seemed to disappear after my second baby. He often complains that I put the children before his needs.
He worked as a scaffolder in the events business but, of course, there’s been no work since March.
We had to give up our rented house and move back in with my mum. She’s 39 and divorced and she used to help me with the kids anyway.
It was crowded at her house but she said she would rather we were there than live alone and not see her grandchildren.
My husband seemed happier too. After a few weeks I realised he’d still go out with mates but not get as drunk and he stopped always complaining about our s£x life.
Mum often said she was meeting friends in the evenings too.
I should have realised but the truth was unthinkable. I caught them out one day when I was planning to meet a friend in the Mall. My youngest was sick on the way there so I went home.
I could hear noises from upstairs and my husband was in Mum’s bed. It was clear they’d been having s£x. I screamed at them both and told my husband to get out.
He has gone to stay with a mate. Mum is still here. She keeps crying and saying how sorry she is but I can’t get over it.
I have nowhere else to live and I am in despair.
MARRIAGE-CHRONICLES.COM: No wonder, so get help to start processing this, especially as this is ripping up your children’s lives too.
There is no excuse for what your mum and husband have done, but your mum sounds full of remorse.
Understanding how vulnerable and lonely she probably was may help you forgive her but it’s a big task. However, make every effort to forgive her and have her promise this will never happen again else you will path ways with her for life.
A lot of men can’t control their erection. Once aroused, the next available hole could be dug. This is still not enough excuse to cheat with your mum.
It is a sin in most religious climes but pardonable too in most cases, especially in Christianity.
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Does your husband want to try again? Is he truly sorry? Your loss of s3x drive was no excuse for him cheating, especially with your mum, and especially given what an unsupportive parent he’s been.
You both need to see a counselor and a therapist to help put your marriage together again.