I did swinging to please my man but asking for a threesome with gay man is a BIG NO

I LOVE my partner and even did the swinging thing to please him, but now I’m not sure I want to fight for our relationship.

We have been together for six years and always had a very sexual relationship, having s3x two or three times a day. I am a woman of 36 and he is 42, with a very high s3x drive.

I didn’t always want s3x as often as he did but it made me feel very wanted and appreciated.

We had been together for 18 months or so when he said he wanted to try swinging. I wasn’t keen at first but he didn’t stop going on about it and I wanted to be a good girlfriend.

In the end I agreed and we went to a swinging club. It wasn’t as glamorous as I’d expected but the couples we got involved with were good fun and my partner would always say I was by far the hottest woman there, which made me feel good.

I did swinging to please my fella but I draw the line at threesome with gay man

I wasn’t crazy about it, though. We’d gone off it a bit even before the pandemic arrived and they stopped the club for a while.

It was usually the same faces (and bodies) week after week, so it stopped feeling so exciting.

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Now my partner is saying he wants to arrange a special threesome just for us, with a gay or transgender man. He says he’s not gay or bi. So what’s it about?

All his talk about it has put me off s3x completely. Now he is calling me frigid but I’m just not getting turned on any more.

The episode has brought up a lot of negative feelings for me. My partner says I’m lucky, as he loves me very much and most women would love a relationship like ours.

But I feel confused and don’t know what to do.

Marriage-chronicles.com:

Your partner is kidding himself if he believes most women would like a relationship like that. Most women would run a mile from a man who claims he loves her and yet would allow other men have s3x with her in his presence.

Our sexuality is usually on a spectrum. Your partner might not define himself as gay or bi but these urges are in his sexual make-up – or there is no way he would be pushing this agenda. Right now is pushing for threesome with another man or a transgender. Who knows what else he will be pushing for.

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Whatever is true for him, you must be true to your own instincts. You have already discovered your partner pressurising you is shutting down your s3x drive. Don’t have a threesome you don’t really want (and which, of course, risks transmitting Covid-19).

Love is sacrifice, love is kind…etc but love is not stupid. Don’t give out all your good conscience to a man or anyone with sexual imbalance. Everything in life has a balance which is guided by self-control.
Remember that you’re not only in his life to do all his bidding. Some of your roles are to support, guide and build him into a better man for you and the society at large.

S3x in a relationship is very significant but it’s not all that makes a good lasting relationship.

But your best path to rekindling your relationship is to build up from the basics and go back to touching and kissing one another.

About Wealth Femi

I am Wealth O. A, B.Sc (Chemistry), Delta State University, Nigeria, Diploma (Basic Marine certs), Regional Maritime University, Ghana. Married with kids. Marriage and Relationship Counselor, writer and entrepreneur.

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