In the last two weeks I began discussing the entitlement mentality of an average male in our society and how it’s become an evil spirit in too many men which appears to be controlling them such that they wouldn’t mind raping even minors and diaper babies to satisfy their flesh- without even considering the damning consequences. The first point I discussed last week was “Spiritualise your children.” You may Google search PARENTS, RAISE YOUR SONS NOT TO BE RAPISTS! (I & II)
The father as a role model
As expected and under normal circumstances, the number one role model of a male child is his father- in fact, in his formative years, that boy sees his dad as a super-hero and can’t wait to grow up and become exactly like him. And that’s why you could find him walking and sitting the way he does, gesticulating like him etc. If he has a father who disrespects his mother, controls and treats her like a lesser human, that’s exactly how he would treat his sisters and every female he comes across! In other words, fathers need to shed their ego and treat their wives like queens before their sons- with respect and tenderness- very much like eggs and beat down their controlling nature. Generally teach respect, kindness and compassion for everyone! This would go a long way in raising a gentleman because children have a natural and high propensity to have a double of their parents’ virtues or vices!
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Also, I must not fail to mention that if you are naturally promiscuous, your son is most likely going to take after you or even get worse unless you and his mother do all you can to ensure he doesn’t take after your immoral traits! Please sir, if you know you ever raped a lady even as far back as 20 years ago, it’s important to take your son for a deliverance session because if the spirit of God isn’t controlling His entire existence, he’s likely to do same or even worse!
Give your sons, age-appropriate s3x education
Quite frankly, we hear about many men who became sexually-addicts at a young age as a result of sexual abuse. This type I tell you are a menace to the society. Any boy who tastes sex too soon is likely to rape as many girls as he comes across because male teenagers have a high testosterone levels that lead to a strong sex drive. Besides, it’s new, exciting and forbidden and we also must not forget they are not in control of their emotions and sense of reasoning. Lewd lyrics and sexual objectification of females in the social media has over-taken their decency! So, as early as age three to four when they can talk, you need to start teaching them about their body parts and warning them not to allow anyone mess around with their genitals!
If you are intentional about your parenting, as time goes on, you will know how to fill them in from age to age. I must let you know that if a teenager can learn to tame/subdue his flesh in his teens and stay off sex, he would have conquered a major challenge in his entire existence! You wonder how? You’d find out next Saturday!
To be continued.
By Temilolu Okeowo