We started dating from a young age and we both had great ambitions for life…..From the beginning things were tough cos we were both from poor homes but we had each other’s back and we encouraged each other along the years.
We both believed so much that things will get better and they did, but then my boyfriend started giving me attitude and I later found out he was cheating with another lady. I trusted him with my entire being and I was heart broken. He later called for a breakup after dating for seven years and staying faithful.
I didn’t know I would survive that but I did. After the pains he is back and changed and wants to make it work again. But his life is messed up now and I can see he is very frustrated and those were the things he did to himself when he pushed me away.
I don’t want to go back but then I feel like am giving up on him when he needs me most……am confused. Should I stay and help him or I should just move on with my life?
He is the only guy I have ever dated and it’s so painful that after all the struggles now that we are both financially stable it is then that everything gets distorted. Please help me on what to do.
Marriage Chronicles: My dear, the situation here is dicey. You can’t be so sure he’s changed until he’s bounced back financially. That people share tears whilst kneeling down to say I’m sorry don’t mean they have changed. You can’t also be so sure your next man won’t treat you the same or worse. It is rightly said that “The demon you know can be better than the angel you haven’t seen.”
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His eyes may have opened to the fact that you are the best woman for him…..just like the prodigal son.
So I will advise you to take him back, cos you still very much love him. And the woman instinct in you tells you he’s a changed guy and wants you to take him back.
However, don’t let him use you and toy with your emotions and heart again. A second time affliction can be worse than the first. Watch him closely, put him to test as much as you can. He has to earn your trust this time…..not by words but by his character and actions.
He has to understand that you’re not that same naive girl he messed up with. If he is able to remain loyal till the end then you can certify him as changed man. While you are yet certifying him as changed, Love him but don’t trust him. Good Luck!
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