Story: The Issue of Scanty Intercourse In Marriage

Good day to you and your readers. I’m with this lady and we have a child together. The only time I received an apology was once in 2019.

The truth is that we didn’t study each other very well before having a child. One thing I believe is that God can turn everything bad into good and that had been my prayer.

It’s not that she isn’t good. She is very hard working, but if we have s3x today, then the next s3x date will be in two or three weeks.

Sometimes, she just lies on the bed and she starts complaining my head, back etc. I just get angry and sometimes I just don’t mind her.

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I’m still young. When I talk to her, she will ask why I always talk to her about s3x, my reply is that it worries me a lot.

I don’t cheat on her at all. There hasn’t been a day she will also request for s3x. Please I need help cos I’m hurting and all I’m thinking now is a break up.

Marriage Chronicles: Two things are missing in your marriage or relationship:
1. Love
2. Sexual Attraction between both of you.


You also didn’t mention if you’re married to her or you guys just cohabiting for having a child together. If you’re not married to her yet, why? She might be trying to world you off until you do the right thing.

Lack Of Sexual Attraction

When partners are not sexually attracted to each other, the result is mainly scanty sexual intercourse. We can’t down play the place of good sexual intercourse in marriage. It is one of the potent ways to increase bonding and happiness in the union. And some of the resultant effects are cheating and frequent crisis between spouses….which could lead to separation, breakup or divorce.

So, there’s need to work out modalities to increase sexual attraction between partners. Keep personal hygiene and create good environment for intercourse.

She mustn’t work harder than you, you have to be the man in responsibilities, not just in bed. Buy her gifts without talking about s3x. Send her love messages intermittently, take her out on dates.

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Lack of Love

If there is no love in the relationship, she could end up cheating on you. Love deals directly with feelings and emotions which control the entire body chemistry of people. Every woman is emotional and most women, unlike men, attached emotions to whatever they do, including sexual intercourse.

Make her your friend, rather than your baby mama or s3x partner. Have normal conversation without bringing in s3x topic. Try to find out from her what she likes and what she doesn’t like.

Don’t force her to talk to you if she doesn’t want to talk. Show her more care and love, and she will gradually loosen up for you. Read the following article for more details. Divorce is not an option yet, your marriage is boring so work on it. Good luck!

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About Wealth Femi

I am Wealth O. A, B.Sc (Chemistry), Delta State University, Nigeria, Diploma (Basic Marine certs), Regional Maritime University, Ghana. Married with kids. Marriage and Relationship Counselor, writer and entrepreneur.

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