The Effect of Masturbation on your S!x Life.

Well I am 33 years of age and I have been masturbating for the past 18 years now. It all started one afternoon when I closed from school. There was “light-off” as we used to call it back then. I was changing my uniform when the light came on back and the TV and Deck (pia monko) were on. It was porn playing and my mom was the one watching it as she and our dad were divorced and living separately.

I was young and naive and I didn’t know what was going on. I could remember the scene very well and it was a foursome, 1 guy and 3 ladies. The funny thing was that because I didn’t know what they were doing, I thought the guy and the other 2 ladies were beating the lady been used because of her screaming ( I thought she was crying ).

It wasn’t long when I heard my mom’s voice outside and I quickly offed everything. I think she was watching it when the light went off.

FF, the following day I started digging her wardrobe in search of the cassette and low and behold I found 2 cassettes. I took my time to fully watch 1 and the other one on the next day.

After one week I got to understand what they were doing in the porn and starting enjoying it but I didn’t know what and how to masturbate until one day the one I watched there was a solo scene inside. ( I think she rented the cassettes so she was bringing in new cassettes every week).

Again, I noticed that I wasn’t the only one sneaking through her wardrobe for the cassettes but my senior sister too was also doing that and I don’t know whether she also knew I was into the league. I started masturbating seriously and I can masturbate 5 times in a day. Sometimes I can masturbate till there is no sperm left in my balls.

NB. because I didn’t know how to masturbate early on, I always had bluebells when I finished watching.

This has really affected me academically and socially. I am always indoors and I watch porn and masturbate immediately after having s3x with all my exes.

I have been single for the past 3 years now because masturbating is enough for me. The disturbing issue is that, I am a Muslim and during Ramadan(fasting) time, when the time is due for us to break our fast, I only drink water, masturbate, before I eat and after that I pray.

I have been praying for God’s guidance and mercy to enable me stop but still I go back to doing it. The maximum duration I was able to stop was one month and that was during 2018 Ramadan time. I was happy and I thought it was over because I really prayed and cried during the fasting time for me to stop but I started again a day after the fasting was over. I sometimes cry and hit myself in the shower after masturbating.

There is no book and documentary I haven’t read nor watched in order to stop it yet, it was an exercise in futility. It is not easy but I know I would stop Insha-Allah .

My advice is to parents. They should be careful with watching porn especially when living in a single room with their kids. On this note, I would like to request prayers from your cherished followers to help and remember me in their prayers . Thank you!

Marriage Chronicles: Character, when formed is difficult to change. Long term addiction is also very difficult to quit. That’s why it is good to have basic knowledge of life early and also to have proper home training.

Your mom took to watching porn because of broken marriage. She may not have been drawn to watching porn if your dad was still with her. This is one of the many ill effects of broken marriage. Now, you and your sister have to bear the brunt.

However, there are a couple of things you have to do when you wish to quit a habit.
1. Write down on a piece of paper why you need to quit
2. Put that paper in your wallet or somewhere you can easily access it. Carry it with you wherever you go and always take a look at it, especially at your quiet times.
3. Talk loudly to yourself about it whenever the urge to masturbate comes.
4. Talk to God about it too, everything we do in life has a spirit behind it. You may think it’s normal or natural but you will be shocked to know that you may have been possessed by a spirit which seeks to destroy your future with it. Every Addiction has a spirit behind it.
5. Try to make more friends, with both genders. From your many female friends, carefully choose someone you can marry. When you find her, let her know your addiction and your struggle to change, she will help you.
6. Discard every s!x or porn material you have around you. So long you have porn movies on your phone, laptop or in any device around you, you may never be able to win the battle at hand.
7. Talk to relationship counselors and therapists, they will help you.
8. Keep your mind and body busy always until you are too exhausted for more activities. Don’t smoke or take alcoholic drinks. They will increase your s!x libido.

Always remember that the entire human system is controlled by the mind. Once your mind is made up on something and you work towards it, you will achieve it. Nothing is impossible for a willing mind. Good Luck!

About Wealth Femi

I am Wealth O. A, B.Sc (Chemistry), Delta State University, Nigeria, Diploma (Basic Marine certs), Regional Maritime University, Ghana. Married with kids. Marriage and Relationship Counselor, writer and entrepreneur.

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