Lying is a tool used by many people to cover up an illicit act. Some lie for fear of consequence, others life to gain a favor while many others lie for no reason.
Here are the views of some married couples to know what they would do if their spouses indulge in telling lies
I’II tell her how I feel about it – Sunday Abioye
If I notice that my wife tells lies, I will make her understand how I feel about it. I will make her understand that she is my wife and she should never lie to me because it’s not a good thing for married couples to lie to one another. They are supposed to be truthful to themselves. Truthfulness increases trust. However, I will make her apologise for her wrongdoing and I will forgive her. After all, she is my wife and she deserves my forgiveness no matter what she does wrong.
It will affect our children – Kayode Adesuyi
If my wife tells lies, I will let her realise the implication of lying. A lying spouse can never be trusted. Couples who lie to one another do not last long in marriage, so we have to be loyal to one another. Also, I will open her eyes to the effects lying would have on our children. The children can copy the bad habit of telling lies when they notice their parents doing same. The children would no longer be trusted among their peers because of the bad habit and this will tell largely on their social lives. Therefore, we have to be as truthful to one another as possible.
I’II beg her to stop the act – Gbenga Adetola
Since telling lies is a bad habit that can destroy one’s personality and can equally have negative effects on the upbringing of the children, I will not take such attitude with levity. I will first of all uncover all her lies. I will confront her and then counsel her against such a bad habit and make her see the negative effects lies can have on herself, the children and society at large. I will beg her to desist from the habit for the sake of our children and myself if not for herself. She would be given a stern warning as there would be consequences if she fails to desist from the act.
I’II confront her with my findings – Samuel Iwaloye
Upon noticing that she tells lies, I will confront her with my discovery. If she denies, I will let her know that the truth is out and the truth only disgraces a lying tongue. I will blame her for not being truthful to me. One of the major attributes of marriage is truthfulness. A marriage that lacks truthfulness has failed already. Couples are meant to trust one another and serve as good examples to their children to follow by telling the truth always. A liar will always try to cover a lie with another lie, which is why its important to be truthful. However, I will forgive her if she desists from telling lies.
I’ll forgive her if she apologises – Felix Oyemakin
It will be a big deal because it is the last thing I will expect from a woman that I have done everything humanly possible for her to be happy and comfortable. However, if things turn out that way, I will not be quick in taking any negative action that will affect my life, marriage, ministry and my children later in life. I will see her as a human being. There is no prefect being on earth except God who is perfect and without sin.
Also, I will ask her the reason for her action because some lies can be justified depending on the circumstances that led to it. If she can convince me on why she has to tell lies and I am satisfied with her explanation, I will let things be. However, if there is no justifiable reason for telling such lies but for selfish reasons and she feels remorse and apologises for her action, I will forgive her for peace to reign. Finally, I will not allow myself to be caught unawares next time; I will always prepare myself knowing that I am dealing with a human being not God. It’s the only way one can save oneself from hypertension and untimely death.
I’II give him a second chance – Kemi Ade
I will tell him to stop because to me lying is betrayal. People lie for different reasons especially in marriages. If my husband tells lies to avoid embarrassment or to protect me from pain, I still consider it as a lie. I will give him the benefit of the doubt to know the motive behind the lie because it will help me to know why he did it. I will forgive him and give him a second chance to repent.
I won’t accept if he tells sensitive lies – Yemi Obafisan
I will have to draw his attention to his lies maybe that will help in changing him. Many people tell lies only that one should try not to tell lies that will cause us our lives or put us in a tough situation. Lying comes naturally to some people because it has become their habit and I wouldn’t accept it if my husband possess such habit. My husband is fond of telling me that he would be home in the next 20 minutes and I should get his dinner ready. But I am used to the fact that he would arrive an hour later. The thing I have noticed in him is that he is not good at keeping to time. He is my husband and I understand him in that regard. If he tells a lie involving sensitive issues, I will not take it at all. I will tell him to change his ways because lying wouldn’t help our marriage.
It depends on the circumstance – Chioma Okoro
I know that the only reason that will make husband to lie is when he wants to protect his ego in public. At that point, he is probably ashamed of what he is trying to cover up and scared of the consequence and doesn’t want to face the fact that he has disappointed some people. When he does that, it will be easy for him to convince me that he didn’t lie. I will allow him to do that but once he enters the house, I will let him know that what he did was bad. My husband knows that I love people that tell the truth and I don’t like people who brag. There are some lies that can save someone and he has yet to be in such a situation to the best of my knowledge. But if he finds himself in the situation whereby he needs to lie to save his life, why not? I wouldn’t be offended with that.
I’ll let him to continue lying – Bukola Olanera
I will leave him to keep on lying. The worst thing is for me to provoke him having realised that he’s not totally honest with me. I will try to look at the situation from his perspective and to understand why he tells lies. I will allow him look like a fool to know by himself that I know he tells lies to me. I know that in so doing, he will change on his own. I don’t need to force the truth out of him. My actions alone will make him change.
I’ll keep advising him to change – Esther Tella
I will first make my findings to be sure that he tells lies. Then, I will make him realise that he has lied to me several times. I will also try to expose what he did so that he can see the point I am arguing from. I will keep talking to him about it and I believe that he will change with time. He is my husband and I know that he will drop that habit in a matter of time.