A mum has revealed her horror after discovering her partner had cheated on her with 30 women – including when she was in labour with his baby.
She says: “He was always so attentive when we first got together and we had a great life going out and partying all the time. “It wasn’t long before I began feeling unwell and discovered I was pregnant. I was worried about what Chris would say as it was so soon, but he was thrilled.” Victoria had a baby boy, Mike, but needed four blood transfusions as her placenta broke away during the birth causing her to haemorrhage.
She said: “When I came round, Chris was holding our baby and looked terrified. He said he’d thought I was going to die and told me how much he loved me. I was so happy.”
Back home Chris, a factory worker, did everything for Victoria and Mike while she recovered, but as soon as she was better he began going out with friends. “I loved being a mum and looking after Mike, but Chris wanted to be out all the time, drinking and having a laugh with his mates,” Victoria said. “I think he thought I was a little boring now I’d had a baby. He’d ask me to join him but I just wanted to stay home with Mike.”
Victoria became suspicious after Chris, who she’d met in a nightclub at the age of 17, began vanishing on nights out.
The couple were drifting apart but then Victoria discovered she was pregnant again. “I was thrilled,” she said. “Mike was around 18 months and I began sorting through his things to see what we could use for the new baby. “I realised he’d grown out of his buggy but it was too big for a newborn so I put it up for sale on Facebook.” Within minutes a local woman called Esther, offered to buy the designer pram for 30k.
Victoria said: “I knew her as everyone knows everyone around me and I knew her boyfriend too. She came round to the house with the money. “Chris went to the door and they chatted for a while over the buggy. “A few days later, I found some extra parts for it so I messaged Esther to see if she wanted them. She said yes and Chris went to meet her with them. “I didn’t think anything of it until I saw that she’d liked one of his posts on Facebook. She was forever commenting on his posts after that.
“One day, Chris posted a quote about being loyal to your woman and she put two laughing emojis underneath it. I prickled – it was like she knew something I didn’t. “I confronted him about her and he told me not to be stupid – she was just being friendly as we’d sold her the pram. “I told myself I was being paranoid as everyone knew we were together and I was pregnant with his baby. Esther lived with her boyfriend and also had a baby, so I put it down to my hormones.” But she was still suspicious about Chris and Esther.
Victoria continued to worry about Chris’s behaviour. She said: “A week before the baby was due, I started craving sweets. I asked Chris to get some for me from the local shop – and he didn’t come back. “I was furious – he’d obviously met up with a mate and gone to the pub or something. But then I felt a twinge and what felt like my waters going. “I rang the midwife who said I was in slow labour and that it was my back waters. “I took Mike and went to stay at my mum’s so that I had help in case I went into labour. I sent Chris a text to tell him where we were and that I wasn’t happy with him.”
Her contractions became stronger overnight and, the next morning, Victoria decided to go to hospital. She said: “I didn’t have any of my stuff so thought I’d pop home to get my hospital bag with everything for me and the baby in it. “But as I opened the front door, I heard Chris running across the bedroom floor. Then he appeared at the top of the stairs. He looked flustered. “I asked him where he’d been and he said out for drinks with friends. I didn’t have the energy for an argument so I asked him to look after Mike as I was going to see the midwife. “He couldn’t get me out of the house quick enough, saying ‘off you go, you don’t want to be late. “I couldn’t understand why but on the way I suddenly realised – he must have had another woman up in our bedroom. “I was angry but the contractions were becoming stronger so I had to focus on that.” She didn’t have the baby for another three days and had her mum with her throughout the labour. She said: “I kept begging Mum to call Chris so that he could be here and she could keep Mike busy, but she wouldn’t leave my side.
“I had a beautiful girl who we’d decided to call Vida. Chris turned up an hour later and held her, saying ‘she’s beautiful’. “He had a cuddle with our baby but then I was so thirsty, I asked him to get me a cold drink. That was when I realized he’d left the phone I’d lent him – as his wasn’t working – on the side and I quickly scrolled through it cos I was so suspicious. “I saw loads of messages between him and Esther and realized they had been having an affair. I was really upset – she’d been in my bed while I was in labour with his baby. “When he came back, I went berserk and frenzied as I screamed ‘how could you?’ He looked confused so I held up the phone and he realized he’d been caught out. “He admitted he’d slept with Esther and said he was sorry, but I wanted him out of my sight. I shouted. ‘You slept with her in our bed when I was in labour.’ “Mum was there and asked him to leave as I was so angry and upset.” “He ruined the happiest day of my life,” Victoria says.
He kept begging but it was too late – I couldn’t trust him. He was cheating on me while I was in labour so, what else would he do? “It was unforgivable and I made the right decision because later he admitted he’d slept with around 30 women while we were together. “I don’t know how he found the time but that was it – he moved out the next day when I came home from hospital with our baby girl.
“He’s a nightmare – a true love rat. He kept apologising and begged me back but I would never go back to someone who could do that.”
“I’ve slept with around 30 women – it happened when I was going out with my friends. I didn’t think about it at the time but when Victoria found out it was bad.
“I do regret it – it’s quite disgusting isn’t it? We split up after five years when Vida was born. “Victoria was very upset but we are friends now because of the kids. I have a girlfriend now and have learnt my lesson – I would never act like that now.”
Victoria is now single but sees Chris every day when he comes to visit the kids. “He’s a great dad,” she says, “but he’s a terrible boyfriend. I don’t want to share my man with another woman – let alone 30 of them.”