I have been dating this guy for a little over a year now and honestly, he is not a bad person. He’s caring, advises me, encourages me to pursue my dreams. To me, he is or about ok for a guy I’d like to spend the rest of my life with.
The problem is, I have been raised from a Christian home and wish I have a guy or husband to-be that will follow me to church.
My boyfriend believes religion is a human invention and going to church doesn’t make you a good person. He believes his purpose on Earth is not to look for his maker but to serve humanity in his best possible way and if he is able to do that, then he has done the will of God. But he doesn’t necessarily have to look for his maker in a church or mosque.
I am confused right now. I don’t know whether to go on cos I fell his ideology will be a threat to the future of our kids but what makes me more confused is why a guy who doesn’t go to church can be so generous, empathetic, open minded, trustworthy and faithful.
Please I need advice on this. He is ready for marriage and it looks I’m the one slowing down everything. Please I really need help right now.
Marriage Chronicles: Marriage is an agreement between 2 adults and their families. Now as a Christian, you must have come across the scripture that says ” Can two walk together except they agree”….Amos 3:3
You must agree on certain critical issues before you venture into marriage…especially as a woman because you are the one whose hands are given in marriage. You sure doesn’t know what that means. Once you agree to the marriage proposal of a man, you have automatically agreed to have him as your head and leader. Over 70% of your Right will be given to him, which means so long you remained married to him, he can decide how your future could be….this is very true and every woman must take note before they say “Yes”.
Marriage was instituted by God, which makes it a spiritual union, and Christians strongly believe in the place of God in the marriage….Gen 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6. Being morally okay is different from being spiritually okay.
Going by the above submission, I will need you to ask him the following questions:
- Will you continue to allow me to exercise my faith and religion in our home when I become your wife?
- Will you allow our kids to follow me to Church sometimes if not everytime?
- Do you think you can cope with me and my church programs and activities? Take your time to explain this to him.
- Will you allow us to have a church wedding?
- Will you go to church with me sometimes if there is a need for couples program?
His responses to the above questions should inform what your decision should be. Please don’t start what you can’t finish. It is easier to change a woman in marriage than to change a man. Good Luck!