It is highly recommended that every relationship should be built on trust; but there’s a limit to openness and there exist things your partner doesn’t really need to know.
In essence, it’s OK to cut down on the percentage level of openness in a relationship. The reason is because some people really just can’t handle truth. It does not make them bad people or bad partners; they’re not just wired to be calm or stay sane in the face of certain revelations.
So instead of risking something beautiful over an inconsequential detail that’ll likely not hurt anyone if forever locked away in a vault, just keep mum and continue coasting with the love of your life.
Here are the things you really should not be telling that your partner if you intend to keep the relationship going.
1. Details About Your Sexual Past
For real, not many boyfriends/girlfriends want to hear the step by step narration and graphic details of how you had sex in a bathroom stall at the mall with your ex or some random babe.
2. Your Body Count
For the ladies, only your doctor and/or gynecologist is advised to have a detailed information about your body. Some men can be easily irritated or scared of the unknown and this can reduce your sexual attractions to them or destroy the relationship completely.
3. A Crush On Someone Else
Really, this is literally opening the door for problems no one wants. Here’s the thing about revealing this information – you put your partner in a position to have his imagination roam and become paranoid.
4. The Number of sexual Partners You’ve Had
Being genuinely in love with a man or woman does not magically take away the inclination to be attracted or to fall in love with other people. So if you find yourself tripping for some other guy/babe, it may be too much information for your partner.
5. Secrets you share with your friends about him or her.
We usually discuss our partners with our friends, especially when we just started dating. You will agree with me that it’s not everything we say or our friends say about our spouses that can be let out to them. You may end up betraying your friends or your partner and as a result instigating enmity among them.
6. That you don’t like their parents
I’m not sure anyone wants to hear her boyfriend say he does not like her mum. Neither is there any guy who would stand for that. The only time this may be OK is when you no longer value the relationship and you’re willing to let go of it.
7. That you snooped through their stuff
Even if you searched and found out that they’ve been loyal and loyal to you, keep the good news to yourself. There really is no way to justify snooping through his stuff in the first instance. You’re going to come off as distrustful and things may just go downhill from there. Better keep the info to yourself.
8. That you still stalk his ex
Ladies, your boyfriend does not need to know that you have been stalking his ex on social media. You’ll come off as insecure and you don’t need that. Same thing goes for guys. You really do not want to give off the vibe of insecurity. Your babe does not need that.
9. Your One Night Stand with a stranger or your ex
In as much as we should be very careful in life, sometimes we just can’t be too careful enough. Telling your partner that you had a one night stand with another person because you were drunk or you were forced or seduced or blackmailed may not just be enough. If he/she is not emotionally mature and stable, your relationship may end or will never be the same again.
10. The wrong things your parents said about him/her
We can’t always force our parents to like or love our spouses at once. It may take several years to convince them about who we are in relationship with. Before he/she was accepted, your parents may have said awful things about him/her. Letting him/her know what was said some time ago may steer hate or bitterness for your parents.