Research has revealed 10-15% of children are being raised by men who think they are the biological fathers, but are not. There are several reasons why women cheat on their partner and I’m pretty sure that more than 50% are guilty of it. But how should you know if your girlfriend is loyal? We explore the most common signs that can help you tell whether your woman is cheating on you.
1. She Stops Caring
Women are wired to care about the smallest details about their men and relationships. She cares how many times you call and whether you make time for her. She gets angry with you when you forget those important dates in your relationship and will make a big fuss about it. So when your lady stops caring that you didn’t call and when she doesn’t put on a frown that you forgot all your special dates, then you have a cause to worry.
2. Change In Appearance
When you were dating, your woman went to great lengths to look amazing for you. But after dating for a while or after marriage it seems that she doesn’t care so much like before, which is normal. Has your woman started dressing a little more special out of the blue? Does she suddenly seem to pay extra attention to her appearance while leaving to meet up her girls, more than when going out with you? She may be out to impress and catch the attentions of another man.
3. Sexier Underwear
When a woman is involved with someone new, she often will go out and purchase sexier bras and panties to feel sexier. There is a pleasure women get in being appreciated as a sexual being and will behave a little more sexier. Maybe she’s leaving an extra button undone on her blouse or wearing her hair down instead of neatly tied up. Maybe she has changed her perfume (and that could go either way, stronger to cover the scent of his aftershave or lighter because he’s not fond of heavy fragrances). She may also change the way she wears make-up for similar reasons.
4. Acting defensively
If your woman is cheating on you she is afraid of getting caught; she will get defensive and anything you ask or say to her will be taken as an accusation. You can know she is cheating if she is defensive about how she spends her time, who she spends it with and when she refuses to answer simple questions.
5. No Interest Intimacy
In a relationship the couple builds on intimacy by having sex. If there is no more interest or urge to have sex with you, it is obvious there are chances of unfaithfulness. These are signs that she has already engaged in sex with her new found love.
6. Super Busy
Can you pop by for a visit and maybe take her out to lunch or dinner without making a formal arrangement? Is she open and welcoming to such a pleasant surprise from her man? Or does she rush you out and postpone your spontaneous gesture? Now, don’t sell yourself short. Make sure you test her on this when she should be able to go out with you. Think hard, is her schedule as open to you as it used to be? You’ll know your woman is cheating if she barely ever has time for you claiming a busy schedule. A woman in love will move aside a mountain just to spend time with her man. But if she is constantly making excuses why she can’t see you or dine with you, then she is dining with someone else.
7. She will start having secret schedules
The moment your spouse becomes secretive in her schedules, it clearly shows that there is something she is hiding. She could hide her whereabouts and start having a lot of business trips that care unexplained. If you find yourself knowing less about her itinerary, there is reason to worry.
8. Increased Privacy
Is your wife or girlfriend less likely to let you look at her phone and does she keep it away from you? Perhaps, she is using the “vibrate” instead of the “ring” and even pressing the ignore option far more than she used to. Is she giggling about messages that she doesn’t share with you? Is she texting more than she ever did before? Is there an element of privacy she displays over her phone? There could even be a second phone if the other relationship is that significant. You can tell your woman is cheating on you if she insists on keeping her things private and doesn’t share as openly as she used to.
9. Avoiding questions
If your wife or girlfriend starts avoiding simple questions that you ask her, there are high chances that she is hiding some truth. Avoiding questions is an obvious indication that she is looking for a lie. The woman may also act defensively if you persist with the questions.
10. She Just Won’t Commit!
Most women want a man who is willing to commit to them for life. They will drop hints if not directly ask their boyfriend what his plans for their future are. So if your woman is being dodgy whenever you bring up the topic of the future of your relationship, it may be a sign that she’s cheating on you and has other options to explore.
11. Spending less time with your family or friends
If a woman begins to detach herself from the family, there are strong signs that she is cheating. There are also other women who will stop any close relationship with your friends for fear of showing off their guilt. The woman may be feeling guilty and being close to your family or friends is painful because symptoms of guilt may manifest.
12. Frequent nagging
Women who are seeing someone will tend to nag as they shift away from the normal harmonious communication. This is the time when a woman will lash out and pick arguments at the slightest provocation. It is considered as one of the ways of justifying her deeds so that the relationship can look like one that is not working.
13. Sudden strange friends
If your woman begins to have mysterious friends that are taking most of her time, there are high chances that she is cheating on you. It does not matter whether it is a friend or a workmate but as long as she is not willing to disclose more information, it is a direct telltale sign that she is cheating. As usual, it does not take a psychologist’s mind or an expert to know if a woman is cheating.
14. She is now independent
Being independent with you is one of the early signs that should tell you something is not right. The woman will want to share less time and sensitive information with you so that you do not discover her new ways. In some cases, she may start using “You and I” instead of ”We” and this is a clear indication that you are no longer part of her future plans. These are actions that indicate the woman no longer needs you in her picture.
15. Carefully watch her eyes!
When you are in public, dining, at a bar any social function. Do you see her eyes darting about more than usual… is she scanning the room? If her attention to you seems less intense, it probably is. Even if her new partner is aware of you, she will always be “casing” the situation, always trying to be prepared for the unexpected encounter… Another sign to look for: You are sitting across the table from her and the topic of your feelings for one another comes up. Is she looking you straight in the eyes hanging on your every word – or is she looking down or past you or maybe her gaze is glossy and unfocused. Her sincerity towards you is in her eyes, especially when she utters the phrase “I love you.” If she is not looking you straight in the eye when she says that, there could be a problem.
These signs are a clear indication that your woman is cheating on you, or intends to do so. If there is no cheating, the same signs may be a suggestion that the relationship is not where it should be, but don’t get paranoid unless there is a combination of the above signs that make you feel like something is wrong.