The fact that you have been dating your boyfriend or fiance for a decade now doesn’t mean he is going to pop up the question: “Angela, Will you marry me”? The relationship may even take another decade still without him proposing marriage to you.
So many ladies, especially the well mature in age ladies, who think time is no more in their favour to wait for one more day to get married like their mates or counterparts, are experiencing uncontrollable anxiety, frustration, depression and agitation for marriage.
Ultimatums are scary and they can backfire. There are some scenarios, of course, where your partner is really dragging their feet and needs a little extra nudge. Let’s assume that’s the case here. So how do you get them to propose?
1. Don’t frequently talk about your dream wedding.
Don’t show him photos of married couples, wedding dresses, flowers or wedding cakes. The idea of marrying you might be appealing, but the specific logistics (and cost) of a wedding can be overwhelming to some people at first. It’s best to keep mum on your wedding interests and refrain from engaging him at every slightest opportunity with wedding quests.
2. Give your partner a signal.
There are loads of possible reasons why your man hasn’t proposed yet, and fear of rejection might be one of them—seriously! Eliminate this fear by giving a signal that you’re ready to get married to him—you can do this more subtly by saying: “I expect you on one knee on my birthday night.” Start by casually working marriage and weddings into normal conversations, whether it’s talking about a friend’s wedding or a new movie or book with an interesting take on marriage. Take it a step further by applying the topic to your own life and see what your partner’s views are on your future together.
3. Let your partner know you are not married to him yet
Most ladies treat their men as though they are already married to them. Men are easily carried away with issues of life and would mostly pay attention only to their pressing needs. The primary need of a man from a woman is sex, not marriage. Defiling the bed before marriage can delay your wedding. Don’t give what a wife should give as a girlfriend or fiancee, you must learn how to strike a balance in all you do with him. Men like to explore, most can easily get fed up.
4. Be comfortable with a proposal next year, not this year.
You’ll likely spend the next 50 plus years together, so think of the big picture: Does it really matter if you get engaged in December or June? Of course, if your partner has been waffling about getting engaged for years and you know in your gut that it’s time, there’s really only one strategy that can help…..just give him a considerable time frame.
5. Keep a healthy distance
Men want their space sometimes. Learn how to maintain a healthy distance that will make him always look for you. You don’t have to be his personal bodyguard or a federal mobile police whose job is to police him about. Being always around or available at his beck and call can delay his proposal. Make yourself a scarce commodity with a high demand, that’s when your presence can be valued appropriately. Let him figure out, without you necessarily saying it, that the only way to have you with him as much as he wants is through marriage. That will make him to look for the nearest available good engagement ring. But be careful he doesn’t get all he wants by mere engagement ring….he has to put a wedding ring on your finger….that’s the goal.
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