One of the reasons for the failing, failed and broken marriages and relationships in our days is due to misplacement of choices and priorities. So many partners desire a perfect person rather than a good person. “All that glitter are no good”.
In case you don’t know, someone can be perfect but not good and someone can also be good but not perfect. Most times God, the creator of all beings, have (in His Wisdom) made some persons to be perfect while some good, to meet up the demands of their destinies.
When it comes to the issues of Relationship and Marriage, I will strongly recommend for suitors to go for a Good person, not a Perfect person. You can also liken this to Character and Beauty. Most people go for Beauty instead of Character. Meanwhile it is character that sustains a relationship/marriage, not beauty. This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t desire beauty, of course beauty also has a good role to play in having a good relationship and marriage but the point is that beauty fades overtime while character is revealed/lasts overtime.
What is the difference between a Good Person and a Perfect Person?
A perfect person can sometimes be only seen by the beholder as perfect. This is why it is said that “Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder”. What seems to be perfect for one may be imperfect for another. Research has shown that most perfect people have serious character issues. They often have the mindset of perfectionists. Perfect people think they are too good for anybody. They go with some level of pride. They can end up being very bad partners. They can be very selfish and inconsiderate of their spouses desires and feelings. And they most times want to take advantage of their partners, with the mind that they can not be easily let go or do without. They are mostly ‘transactional’ in relationship. They can leave you once you no longer have something to offer. They can be easily irritated by their partners and are hardly satisfied or pleased. They are competitive and feel so unsafe when their partner is doing better than them. They are not trustworthy and they always want to be the center of attraction. They fear to fail and end up failing more than you can imagine. Their priorities are mostly out of reach due to the unachievable high standard of living they desire. They can be too expensive to live with, always comparing and compelling.
On the Other hand, a Good person can be seen by everyone who comes in contact with them as Good. They are not only attractive to one person. Their character transcends every stage of the union. They are not selfish or self-centered. You can trust them with your dreams and visions. They think for you, feel for you and always want to share in your pains, not only your gains. A good person will stay with you when everyone is gone. A good person will hide your weakness and promote your strength. Good people take things one at a time….believing in what is achievable overtime. They don’t impress people to the detriment of their partners. Good people may not be desirable at first but are admirable at last. A good person means what he/she says and says what he/she means. They don’t live fake life and are trustworthy.
Good people are few, perfect people are everywhere. You need to look very well before you leap into a relationship or marriage with anyone. Don’t be carried away by just appearance, because appearance doesn’t last forever. Sometimes, what you are seeing now can disappear overnight. A good person is the same in the morning and in the night. And if you are lucky to get a perfect-good person, then you are highly favoured amongst humans.