Is this how marriage works? Hubby and I have been married for almost two years now with a son. He is into electrical work and building, though this work doesn’t come regularly. I also work too. Then we planned and got married. I support the house the best way I could in terms of feeding he does bring money whenever he has too. We also both agreed when money comes we will start up a business. Most times too he will not have contract for months and I try my best to keep the house going. I get him clothes whenever I could. But the problem is that when ever we have little misunderstanding his reaction makes me to wonder, he will tell me the marriage is not working, he can’t continue like this, he needs a divorce, he’s too young to be facing all these challenges, no money and all that. That since we got married none of our plans have been achieved.
Sir, I need your advice because he is seeing me as his problem. I reminded him how I met him, he was not having a white collar job that he was sacked from, he didn’t invest money on any business that didn’t work. He still gets contracts once in awhile and I do give him cash when he requested. Please am thinking of giving him space let me see what he will achieve because he’s better now than when we met. Plz ur opinions matters thank you.
Marriage Chronicles: Just as every good thing must be tried and tested, so also marriage has its trying and testing times. I takes both partners to navigate through the huddles of life that may hit at the sweet union. That is why it is imperative to be matured in the 7 senses of maturity before venturing into marriage. Marriage is for men and women and not boys and girls.
Unfortunately, the woes and flaws of marriage have been, in most times, blamed on wives by their husbands and their families, societies and cultures and sometimes, by religions….just as the wife also get all the praises when things are good for the husband. Whereas, the problems could actually be coming from the men.
In the face of instances as this, I will advise you to be a little patient, don’t be rash in your decision. Don’t also forget that you have a son who needs the both of you. Most men are very rash and irrational when they are broke or facing financial hardship. Try not to talk much, respect him as much as you can, send him encouraging and inspirational messages via WhatsApp, Facebook or SMS, if it is difficult to have a face-to-face conversation with him. Let him know you love him so much and you strongly believe things will change for good if you both fight together in agreement. Don’t also forget to pray very well for him, yourself, your marriage and his business. If he doesn’t change or if things don’t change after you have done all you can, then give him some space. Good Luck!