Written and edited by Wealth Femi.
I have often heard some women say “If he cheats, I will also cheat”. Many married women in our days have actually gone ahead to cheat on their husbands because the men cheated. However, nobody has the right to cheat and indeed nobody want to be cheated on. But permit me to say here that there is a huge difference between a man and a woman, though they are both warm blooded humans.
A man can cheat or sleep with a woman just for his sexual gratification with no other strings attached. But the case is not so with a woman. When a woman is involved, she is involved. Women don’t just have s!x with a man….even if she is a prostitute, she does it for a reason and she is emotionally connected to her reasons. So she ends up being more loyal to the man who pays her more. But men can have sexual affiliation with a woman with no emotional connection to her. Once he is satisfied, the woman can go to blazes while he goes back to the one he truly cares about. That’s why the most sophisticated and dreaded man out there can be the weakest and most simple man at home. It’s only because he loves and respects the woman he has at home than anyone else out there. It is only few cheating men, who disrespect their wives and don’t care about their feelings. A well known and feared man in the society can be so fearful of his wife at home and ends up always lying to cover up his sexual promiscuity. Also, some societies may pardon the man when he cheats but will severely sanction the woman for cheating. This is because most societies across the globe see the man as the head and has the right to get as many women he wants, provided he can care for them while this is not so for women in these same places.
I will also like to add that the woman’s body is more sacred than that of the man…..that’s why most rituals done using woman body parts. Her sin can destroy the entire family and the society at large. Most traditional systems in Africa have realized this fact about the woman creature and have put stringent laws in place to guide her against sexual promiscuity.
Finally, it is said that “two wrongs don’t make a right”. The wife should rather help the man’s weakness and maintain the glory of her marriage other than resort to an eye-for-eye approach. The consequences of retaliation for the woman may be too grievous than for the man….now or later.