I hear all the time from women how often they become confused about whether or not a man really loves them and if he is serious about his feelings.
The adage “actions speak louder than words” rings truer than ever when it comes to dating and relationships. Anyone can tell you what you want to hear – but only someone who actually MEANS what he says will make sure his actions are in consonance with his words.
In my little experience and research, I have been able to point out 10 significant signs He Loves you:
1. He includes you in every part of his life:
When a man loves a woman he wants to integrate her into his life, and brings her around his family and friends. He introduces and tells every important person in his life about you. He wants them to love you, and for you to love them. He wants you to be an extension of him and include you in important events and milestones.
2. He tries to give more than he takes:
Real love is about giving and contributing to your partner’s life. A man who loves you will give to you in the best ways he knows how. He will care for you, respect you, listen to you, and adore you. He won’t drain your energy or make you feel like giving is only one sided. Great relationships are not about give and take, they are about Give and Give again.
3. It’s not ‘me‘, it’s ‘us‘:
You were two separate individuals, but now are a combined team. When a man is in love he will see you as inseparable. This includes when RSVPing to an event, talking about a vacation, or looking into the future, Where he goes, he wants you to go and vice versa. It is no longer ‘my life,’ it is ‘our life.’
4. He really Sees You:
How many people really see you? How many people hear what you’re not saying? A man who loves you will pay such close attention to you that he will notice details that nobody else does. He will learn what makes you happy, sad, angry, or ecstatic. This awareness will help him love your more. It shows him all the small details he loves about you.
5. Your happiness is his happiness:
When a man truly loves you he shares in your happiness and lends you his strength to ease your pain. Being in love is about being teammates who always support each other. A man in love will want to see you happy and work hard to make it happen.
6. He’s there for you even on the rainy days:
Life is not always sunshine and rainbows. It can be difficult. Any man can stay next to you on the sunny days, but the true test of his love will be during the rainy days. Does he hold the “umbrella” over you on the rainy days? There will be challenges, losses, and failures, but the right man will stand in front of you when you need protection, behind you when you need support, and next to you when you need a partner.
7. You will know (Assurance):
When a man truly loves and cares about you he will make it known. Every woman likes to be sure and reassured of the love of their man. She doesn’t want to be put in the dark to wander about. He will put in the effort consistently, and back up his words with actions. You won’t have to wonder about his feelings, he will tell you and show you.
8. He Wants to Know Your Future Plans:
If he is truly in love with you, then he’ll want to know what you’re planning for the future. If you mention that you’re thinking of moving away or getting a job overseas, he’ll be visibly devastated at the thought of it. Future is better than the past or present, so everybody should look up to what future holds.
Marisa T. Cohen, Ph.D., associate professor of psychology at St. Francis College says that when partners ask each other questions about the future, it shows “a certain level of intimacy. This is an important sign to pay attention to as it shows what kind of future you might have together.
9. He Gets Little Jeaslous: This may be a surprising sign, but when you think about it, jealousy is a natural reaction that men find hard to control. And if they show jealousy, it’s a clear sign that they have strong emotions for you. Relationship expert Dr. Terri Orbuch says:
“Jealousy is among the most human of all emotions. You feel jealous when you think you are going to lose a relationship you really value.”
Even in large groups, if he loves you, he might go out of his own way to make sure he is closer to you, and interrupting conversations with other men. Not all men will do this. After all, they won’t want to be too controlling. But they may ask you why you were talking to a particular guy. He might not even realize himself, but his actions speak louder than his words.
10. He Will Drop Everything to Attend to you: Women are attention seekers just like the men. Regardless of how important everything else is in his life, you are his number one priority. You just know that he would come running if you needed him to save you. No matter how busy he is, he finds time to check up on you as much as he can. He won’t give regular excuses in the place of attention.
The interesting thing about love is that we all communicate and receive it in our own unique ways. So tell me in the comments, which one of the true love signs means the most to YOU? Or if I missed one, what would you add to the list?